How Do You Turn Up
I walk into the room and I see them straight away - arms folded, slouched in their chair, looking out the window and if I'm really observant periodically rolling their eyes as if they have been sent to the Siberia of management development programs. "Oh shit........here we go" is something that I whisper to myself and then BOOM.
"Is this useful Mark?" a gentle voice says to me as if to give me a little prod rather than a big whack. "How do you think that will impact on how you have turned up today?" the voice then goes on to say. "Get a grip mate or you will get what you deserve".
What I don't see first is the highly engaged and energetic types, bouncing off the walls and looking like they have won the lotto and are in for a pretty good time. More than happy to be here for the two days and contribute to the learning of the group.
So why is it that I pay more attention to the so called "knuckle dragging oxygen thieves" and how can I address this in order to allow for everyone in the room to be heard before we kick off? What has triggered me into seeing this before I see anything else?
Perhaps this is something that you could try (after taking a big deep breath and being prepared for the responses) to change the way that you turn up and get things out in the open.
At the beginning of my programs I like to get straight to the point; get a feel for the room and what may be going on in the minds of the humans who have willingly turned up or have possibly been sent along against their will. After all time is precious these days (we can never get it back) and it's important that we use it wisely.
The best way to get to the point and get a feel for this is by asking these 3 simple questions and by a show of hands eliciting the mood of the room.
The questions are:
Has anybody turned up here today with questionable intent?
Has anybody turned up today to stifle progress for the group?
Has anybody turned up today only in the service of self?
As you can imagine I get some pretty interesting reactions, looks of guilt, shock and bewilderment, heads shaking, disbelief, anger and even some confessions. Yes I recently did have someone say that they had turned up in the service of self and went onto explain it was about being challenged and learning something that could benefit them.
Let's for a moment extend this out to the business world.
Think of the next meeting you are attending; think of the other humans that will be in the room. What's at the front of your mind? Is anyone going to turn up with questionable intent, to stifle progress and to serve themselves?
Go on observe them right now.
What do they look like? How do they behave? Why do you see them like this?
How are you feeling about this?
What is that going to do to the way you turn up?
There are two ways here to think about and both will have significantly different impacts on how you, YES YOU turn up and contribute positively or negatively to the meeting.
Am I focussed on other Humans turning up with:
Questionable Intent to Stifle Progress and Serve Self = Negative Self Contribution
Good Intent to Make Progress and Serve Others = Positive Self Contribution
It's your choice and whatever the choice you make I cannot put it any more simply than this:
You Will Get What You Deserve ....................
How will you turn up next time?
Mark Lebusque has mastered the art of Purposeful Provocation He has a unique gift in making pointed and incisive interventions into human interactions where the truth has gone missing. He is fearless and goes where others talk of going in order to help individuals and organisations make real progress. He brings the Elephants front and centre into the Room.
For more information on how he does this go to www.marklebusque.com