Social Media and Social Agreement
Social media is image driven.
We select an image of ourselves to show the world in the form of a picture.
We create an image for others with what we say about ourselves on our profiles.
We expand that image for others through interaction.
Here is the agreement we all made without realizing it.
Opinions are like assholes and if you post anything on social media you will face the opinions of others. You can't choose who sees and responds to what it is you are putting out there. You agree that others have the same right to comment as you have.
This is dangerous and threatening to image.
What if they say something counter to what I am presenting?
Suck it up buttercup and deal with it. You put it out there and now your image is dependent on your response to every last one of the people who comments regardless what their comment is.
Most people have never had training in leading a discussion and in the comment sections on social media this is evident. People tend forget to treat it as if we are all in the same room.
This allows for discourteous behavior.
If someone has commented on something you put out to the world, to ignore their comment is rude and disrespectful on all levels. If we were in the same room that does not happen. It happens because we forget there is a real human being on the other side.
The value of a social media site is in how well those who post respond to those who comment. Here's why you ignore a comment when you're the author of an article.
You feel the comment threatens your image. You fear losing status in the eyes of the other readers and thus let your fear inspire an act of cowardice by pretending the comment isn't there.
The social agreement is to agree if you talk shit you are going to face it and you can't control who says what when you put something out in the world. You are challenging the world to evaluate your presentation. You cant't control what that evaluation is going to be and you have made an agreement to face it all the moment you put it out to all.
This social agreement could also be the Karmic Law of existence often referred to as Reap what you Sow.
If you piss some one off with what you have to say, you are going to deal with it and there is no way to absolve yourself from it. If you would like to avoid dealing with anyone countering what you are presenting then make it flawless if you think you can.
Find all the holes anyone would be looking to exploit and cover your own ass in your own presentation of your material.
Even then someone will find a counter to your presentation and you act like a child when you hide from that counter. You show that your image is just that all image no substance.
When you lead a discussion you accept the responsibility of taking on all comers and interacting with all comers. I have spent years in discussion groups and have even owned my own once upon time.
Social media has great potential to create change that is of a benefit to the sum, you know everyone equally. It only works when you work with the social agreement you made by being here to begin with.