Why do we look to technology and science instead of education for a fix?
I was in a discussion on a post and the answer to an issue was science and technology instead of education on how to behave with self discipline and responsibility.
Oh shit the "R" word, this guy must be over 40.
In my youth I was a raging alcoholic. I did foolish and irresponsible things. I though I was supposed to. After all it was the example I had been watching in film since I was a child and the behavior that my hometown was celebrated for by Playboy Magazine in the 80's. It was 1987 that Playboy ranked Chico State University the number 1 party school in the USA. My hometown has suffered from this ever since.
In junior high I started hearing other kids talking about going to college parties and getting drunk and laid.
The discussion I was in and the topic that inspired this was population rate control. My answer was not to look to science for better forms of birth control, my answer was to look to education to teach our youth better so they act better when they are pretending to be all growed up.
Since I was 13 and in the 7th grade I have always had at least 6 women that have been my sister club over the years. As the years have gone on one of the horrifying consistencies has been sexual trauma in lives of my sister club. It's not a prerequisite it happens that much in today's society.
They did a study that showed an alarming rate of college age men would rape a woman if they thought they could get away with it.
I don't think birth control is the answer to this issue.
At what point do we look at ourselves and take responsibility for teaching ourselves better.
One of the reasons I designed the Tantra portion of the Martial Art of Thought material is to give me something to work off of to explain why sex is a gift that comes with a mega fuck ton of responsibility and multiply that times infinity if the sex produces a child.
For me it's not a issue of morals, it's a human issue. It's a decisions and consequences issue.
Do I think there is one catch all answer to magically make it all better?
Not by an infinite shot.
What is going to make it better is when we start by teaching better and teaching not just the facts of what sex is, teaching the concepts of what sex can be when self respect and respect for one's partner is focal point of learning about the activity. Teaching not safe sex, teaching responsible self care where sex is concerned on an emotional level as well as physical.
Teaching the benefits of building trust and intimacy and letting the act be nothing more than an expression of that connection already created. Teaching patience. Teaching technique and foreplay and why it's important. Teaching foreplay begins with mind sex.
Mind sex is where you talk about everything except sex. If a partner can consistently stimulate your mind, the body is never going to be hard to please.
Intimacy is about getting deep into how each views the world and what each cares most about in life.
Why aren't we teaching these things in school?
I don't have an answer that doesn't piss me off for the many, many, many people having unsatisfying sex and horrible relationship experiences that might have been avoided had they been taught better.
To me there is simply no excuse to allow our species to continue to do this to each other when education can provide better probabilities when it comes to sex and relationships that might be the answer to curbing the the population explosion.
Besides a condom works pretty well. And get the fuck over it and be responsible unless you are prepared to be a parent. We already have a functioning low tech option. It's not that we need more options we need to use what's available more often.
Anybody else got some ideas?