3 Tips to Find Happiness During the Holiday Season
A dad who has “been there” gives some important tips on surviving the holidays.
During the days of Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah and New Year’s Eve, our thoughts naturally turn to what this season will bring for us. For us single-parents, these times can be especially difficult, whether the children are with us or not.
We face having all the child care responsibilities, dealing with upset children, potentially feeling uncomfortable at friend’s parties, not being invited to a party because we don’t have the kids with us, the shame associated with divorce, an overwhelming feeling of loss and our own loneliness.
Over 20 years ago, my wife and mother of my five young children left us and never returned. Back then I was a scared young man who had to figure out how to raise my kids and find happiness. So, I have had to face 20 holiday seasons as a single-dad, and while it took me a while to adjust, here are 3 things I learned that made my holiday seasons meaningful and merry.
Learn to Love Being Alone
This is a must if you want to be happy. Relying on others for our happiness will surely lead to disappointment and unhappiness. It wasn’t until I learned that being alone has huge advantages and I started to make that time meaningful and productive did I truly find happiness in my life. The holiday times are the most difficult to be alone – unless you change your perspective on them. The first holiday I was alone with five little kids. I felt sorry for myself. I sat around and sulked. I made myself miserable and my kids more miserable than they already were from their mother leaving. After that holiday season was over, I reflected on what had