Building Relationships Is Not Always About You
If you were asked to examine the way you live and the way you work and make big changes, what would you do? Where would you look first?
Your methods of transportation?
I'd start with my relationships.
Yes relationships, here's why.
I don't just mean the people in my life, but also the relationships I have with the things that I use in my life.
You know how you like things a certain way, so much that if it isn't the same way or the same place you get your knickers in a knot? Like the chair you always like to sit in at the dinner table… Or the opinion you jealously guard about people or politics… Or the place you occupy at certain meetings or even your church, mosque or synagogue? It's as if it would be a life changing action for you to change your location or vary your opinion and see it from a different viewpoint.
And then there is the way you talk to or treat the people in your life... You know, your relationships. Is it too big to think that because you can make a change and you dedicate yourself to making that change work that they can too? You expect so much from these people but forget that they have a right to expect from you as well. And they, just like you, have said and done things that, if given an opportunity, would love to have a “do over”.
Give them a chance.
If I've learned anything from life its this: life isn't all about you, it's about the relationships we have and share that makes life enjoyable.
Be flexible, be open, be interested and be willing to forgive and you'll be a much happier person.
A Bit about me...
My vision is quite simple: to make an impact on the lives of the people who have been entrusted to me: You (for reading this article), my family and my clients.
I coach people. Direct, practical, innovative, meaningful.
I coach for excellence.
I love what I do... and so do my clients.
Over the years I've noticed that business coaching that was supposed to make us stronger actually took away our confidence and made us doubt ourselves. Confidence and people skills aren't developed just by measuring and planning everything, they grow through doing and learning from experience and by taking risks. People want to make a difference. Build teams. Be better understood. Live more confidently.
I founded IBC Impact Business Communication Inc. to create a world where business people communicate and act with confidence to create better worlds for themselves. Worlds where they feel powerful and free to express themselves. Worlds where something as simple as conversation creates energy, understanding and impact. Worlds so exquisite, I couldn't imagine doing anything else.
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