Coming out of a miserable feeling : A true Story
Background: "A" had some business association with "B" in the form of a land deal .The so called land deal was in a dispute and soon I realized that they were dealing with a very difficult person who could even be unethical..I already had some bitter experiences with this "B" anyway earlier and preferred to stay away from him for the hardship faced earlier.(You may like to read the link of this article at the end "How can you tolerate someone whom you can't? ).So I felt a little awkward to be with "B" and avoided any direct interactions while I was forced to witness this.This started way back in the year 2004-05(starting point of every evil,I would say) but took a very ugly turn subsequently and turned to a worst scenario later creating hell lot of pain and irreparable damage to not just one..but many,which included "C's" and "D" also(The other three in this story).Well,So I decided that it is too much and needed to tell "A" that what is not acceptable is not acceptable in the best possible manner when it comes to "B". So ideally I would have expected either C or D(The other three) to handle this to make my life less miserable.Honestly I was also worried about A, as I kept hearing stories about the land owner from my own close business sources who gave solid proof also for that and that needed to be believed.Also due to this so called land dispute I was forced to also deal with two others..ie other associates of A and B such as A & S associates totally against my liking. So in the year 2014 August after I once again strongly realized through a ugly turn that the person with whom they were handling this land dispute using my premises as a base for that discussions is also dangerous.Things were more and more getting crystal clear.)
I told A: "Let us not do it .Also I am finding it difficult that you are dealing with B even after all these and that brought also A&S in to this because they also had land "interest",All this is making more and more difficult for me and I don't have any interest to meet any of these parties ..."
A's Reply : "********************"...That arrogant, rude reply would always remain as a pain point.
You may like to read further the article and the short story below.
#I got very disappointed by certain series of events. It was taking twists and turns and I was finding it difficult to survive that episode back then.Thought I should fight for justice. Was absorbing it without complaining about it and realized that “I have to talk about it”.It may not be possible to convince others that they have done wrong!.Sometimes people(some!) don't want to accept .
Might probably be dealing with someone who doesn't even want to understand you .Or even pretending that they have NOT understood you.Later I realized the initial “wound” that was there was much “more manageable” than getting further “hurt” by “JUST” talking about it to let others know what was happening!. Oh God ..What an irony!
May be we could be more at ease by ignoring those things which remain unresolved in our heart?
Keeping all those things in the chest and moving around as if nothing has happened is definitely not an easy task.But moving the "unwanted thoughts " in the mind into recycle bin! is one step closer to getting back to the days of happiness...
Is it possible to have a controllable, predictable life for one?
May be it is an illusion.
Nothing stays the same forever including those feelings of having got hurt. Time heals and heal it should! I also learnt during these periods of struggle in my life to look at those little things which made me happy.Our mind goes running behind “obsessing” about the big things we can't do forgetting those little pleasures we have within our reach.I realized in a hard way that “Elements of uncertainty should motivate us to practice acceptance in our lives”.Think in a little unconventional manner and instead of “expecting the worst” assure yourself that you can handle any difficulty that might come.
Forget about those who does injustice to you?..Yes!..Instead go ahead with your work and look for the light at the end of the tunnel.
Outside world can only invite us to become upset,but we can decide on whether to accept the invitation or not....
Link: 1.."How can you tolerate someone whom you can't"?...Sharing below a wonderful story for you..
A STORY WORTH READING:
"In a forest, a pregnant deer is about to give birth.She finds a remote grass field near a strong-flowing river. This seems a safe place.Suddenly lab-our pains begin.At the same moment, dark clouds gather around above & lightning starts a forest fire.She looks to her left & sees a hunter with his bow extended pointing at her.
To her right, she spots a hungry lion approaching her.
What can the pregnant deer do?
She is in labor!
What will happen?
Will the deer survive? Will she give birth to a fawn?
Will the fawn survive?
Or will everything be burnt by the forest fire?
Will she perish to the hunters’ arrow?
Will she die a horrible death at the hands of the hungry lion approaching her?
She is constrained by the fire on the one side & the flowing river on the other & boxed in by her natural predators.
What does she do?
She focuses on giving birth to a new life.
The sequence of events that follows are:-
Lightning strikes & blinds the hunter.
- He releases the arrow which zips past the deer & strikes the hungry lion.
- It starts to rain heavily, & the forest fire is slowly doused by the rain.
- The deer gives birth to a healthy fawn.
In our life too, there are moments of choice when we are confronted on αll sides with negative thoughts and possibilities.
Some thoughts are so powerful that they overcome us & overwhelm us.
Maybe we can learn from the deer....The priority of the deer, in that given moment, was simply to give birth to a baby.
The rest was not in her hands & any action or reaction that changed her focus would have likely resulted in death or disaster"
Ask yourself,....Where is your focus?....Where is your faith and hope?
In the midst of any storm? Keep going ...One of the best I have read
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