Our Culture’s Pattern is Destructive to any Dream

Our Culture’s Pattern is Destructive to any Dream

Today, Society has an idea that when people do anything together, it has a 50/50 Performance relationship. Therefore, “You do your part, and I’ll do mine.”

The problem here is that giving is not based upon merit, and affection is given when one feels it is deserved. So the whole motivation for action is now based upon how one feels. This is true in relationship between employers and employees, teachers and students, the government and the citizens, business owners and clientele, and even in marriages. This is why there is so much conflict and why so many fail.

If we have a goal in life, and are telling ourselves that we will do our part if and when someone else does there’s, then we just gave control of our lives to this other party.

Our culture’s pattern (50/50 performance relationship) is destined to self-destruct because of these reasons:

  • our inability to meet all unreal expectations
  • our tendency to focus on weaknesses in others
  • our disappointment in others, which paralyzes us from taking action
  • our desire to get revenge when wronged or feel like the other didn’t met the 50/50 requirement
  • the impossibility of knowing if the other party’s has met you half way

Have you ever told yourself, “I’ll do my job, if my boss does theirs” or “I clean my mess, after they clean up theirs.” When we follow our culture’s pattern like this, the pattern is isolation“One who has isolated himself seeks his own desires; he rejects all sound judgment.” (Proverbs 18:1) 

I heard a quote that said, “Many don’t plan to fail, yet they fail to plan.” What I mean by this is I have met so many people with great goals in life and go out to achieve them. Yet, even though they think they might have a plan of action, this mindset drives family, friends, co-workers, and even prospects away. When the day an overwhelming obstacle comes, this person finds themselves alone, with no help.

So, what is the solution? The performance model in any type of relationship should be 100/100 percent. Even if the other party is not putting in that 100 percent you think that they could or should, do yours. You Will see a change in your other party.  

Preston 🐝 Vander Ven Feb 17, 2018 · #8

#7 I like your words. This is one reason I love Business Systems. "Our Rewards are a direct result of our individual effort's." This quote either excites or scares people. Their is no glass ceiling, but there is also no glass floor. Each of us decide our own worth. So, what percent are we worth to ourselves.
Yes, the team around you will help you grow but they won't build your dream for you.

Jerry Fletcher Feb 14, 2018 · #7

The fallacy of training common in high schools when my daughter was attending was that because they would have to collaborate in the workplace they needed to experience it in school. No business with any real eye on the prize can allow employees with the 50/50 mindset. Every team needs to be selected based on everyone functioning at top level. More importantly we need to look to individual experts, not teams,to take the next step.

Lyon Brave Feb 14, 2018 · #6

It os very hard to find your tribe

Brian McKenzie Feb 14, 2018 · #5

I had been burned by 'group projects' during the MBA track. I will no longer work on a team that I did not create and pick. I am past tired of pushing the whole damn thing only for shared credit. It is a shallow Communism, and I won't be around it further.
And there are tons of positions where I don't have to be.

Preston 🐝 Vander Ven Feb 14, 2018 · #4

@Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee thanks for the share and your input.

Preston 🐝 Vander Ven Feb 14, 2018 · #3

#1 @Brian McKenzie , interesting view. I have had to deal with this twice in my life. The way I dealt with the first scenario was we needed to find another team member. But this is because this member had the '00% mindset @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee spoke of. No matter the amount of reward, high or low, their performance was not going to increase. This article would not apply to those who never plan on contribution to society. Sadly their is a large number.
The second method I have dealt with this mentality was just said "NEXT" and found another to work with the team. I did not replace them. Yet, it did not affect our team to have this team to have a few with a '00% performance because we just built are business around them.

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Put `00% performance level even if others put much less effort. Be positive. A lovely buzz by @Preston 🐝 Vander Ven

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Brian McKenzie Feb 13, 2018 · #1

If I am going to be doing 100 % and held accountable for it by a team that isnt doing the same, then I would rather be alone. Indeed, let the rest collapse. Not my Circus, not my Monkeys.

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