Proma 🐝 Nautiyal en beBee in English Brand Ambassador • beBee 9/3/2018 · 2 min de lectura · 1,9K

Since when...

Since when has being capable become a bad thing? Since when has learning new skills become a bad thing? Since when doing your job has become a bad thing?

I think this generation has gotten feminism all wrong. There is a long way to go to become equals. The society will not make our lives easier, true. But why are we so bent on picking up useless, meaningless things to base our advocacy upon and shout out our lungs on social media about how we are wronged. 

What irked me was a video this women's day. People who know me personally know that I don't hesitate to call a spade, spade and I keep miles away from making controversial statements and write anything that can evoke angry response. I like peace and quite and everyone happy. But then there comes a time when things have become too much. 

The video in question asked people around the world to "uncelebrate" women's day, mentioning that women's day is merely a hashtag circus occurring in the social media channels, clearly forgetting the fact that they created something hoping to create hype on this matter. 

Since when...

First of all, it was clearly the term "uncelebrate" that made me sick. Not only because it doesn't exist, but also because brutally killing the essence of the word "celebrate".

Two negatives never make a positive in real life. When things are already bad in the world and when we have one day when we are cheering and appreciating womanhood, why do we have to make that day ugly as well. Why can't we make each and every day more beautiful by becoming stronger and powerful. 

We don't need to complain. We need to take charge. We don't need to ask why, we need to tell them why not.
Yes, we live in a patriarchal society, but trust me, there are more problems we need to fix before asking questions such as why we need to make tea every time someone comes home, and why we received lewd remarks when we wear shorts. 

Girls are killed even before they are born. I would say they are the ones who need some solid advocacy. Women are locked and burnt in their homes, I would say they need some solid advocacy. As for us, who have had the privilege of a good upbringing in which our parents taught us well, made us capable of cooking and making a cup of tea, ensuring we have good jobs and are independent to ask society questions, we need to celebrate. We indeed need to. 

I agree, times are not good. They never have been. But this world has seen wars and mass murders. It has seen women who were not allowed to vote or even express their opinions. But we are getting there.  We need patience and calm-collectedness. We need to play it cool. Having skills of a perfect homemaker is not a black hole in your life. It shows who you truly are: Shakti. Shakti has various forms and is a collection of all goddesses we know: Kali, Durga, Lakshmi, Saraswati. Knowing how to cook does not make you lesser human nor does having an exceptional career make you a bad wife or mom. 

We need to stand united, love and support each other, celebrate each other, every day. We worship our Gods every day but on one special day we celebrate them. Why can't we feel the same way about women's day.

Celebrate and worship the Shakti (power) within you.  

Claire L Cardwell 11/4/2018 · #26

Excellent post as always @Proma 🐝 Nautiyal well said! Why should we 'uncelebrate' Women's Day when women are still disenfranchised in many parts of the world, have to seek permission from their husbands or fathers to do simple things like open a bank account or leave the country to go on vacation, when women are attacked by having acid thrown in their face for speaking out, how about 'honour killings'? Why must we accept salaries of 60-75% less than men in similar (or in many cases junior) positions in the corporate world?

Claire L Cardwell 11/4/2018 · #25

#7 How about equal pay for doing the same job as a man? Or not having men feel threatened by an intelligent and educated woman?

Proma 🐝 Nautiyal 10/4/2018 · #24

#18 Thank you, @Kamini Vyas! I appreciate your comment.

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Proma 🐝 Nautiyal 11/3/2018 · #23

#10 It is always a pleasure to read your comments sir, @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. They are powerful. By this generation, I meant the millennials, like you have already guessed. The ones who respond rather vehemently to social media posts. I am part of this generation I am talking about. I received this particular post on my Facebook timelines multiple times and also on WhatsApp, on the event of women's day. Like I mentioned in the post, I generally keep miles away from controversy and angry posts. They are not graceful and that's not me. However, I found the video utterly distasteful. I needed to speak up. You would know that these days social matters are brought up on social media more than in real life. So if I had to talk about it I had to do so on social media. I was glad to see many other women agreed with the way I thought. The number of these women were more than the ones who shared this video on social media. Had I not written this post I wouldn't have known this, neither would the other ladies who wanted to voice this same opinion. 
I agree with you when you say we don't change a society merely by voicing opinions. We need to take charge and starts from our own homes, family, neighbors and the people around us. One step at a time. If we try to keep playing nice and expect people to unfold the red carpet for us, it's never going to happen. 

I meditate and I firmly believe in the power of making things happen through intent. I want all women to understand that the transformative power, the one you are talking about, is in their own hands. 

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Proma 🐝 Nautiyal 11/3/2018 · #22

#5 I am glad you feel the same, thank you for your comment. :-)

Proma 🐝 Nautiyal 11/3/2018 · #21

#3 Thank you, @Tausif Mundrawala! :-)

Proma 🐝 Nautiyal 11/3/2018 · #20

#9 Thank you so much, @Debasish Majumder.

Proma 🐝 Nautiyal 11/3/2018 · #19

#7 I agree, Devesh. People need to work toward things to make things happen. Situations have not been easy for many people but instead of complaining we need to take charge of the matter. The problem is no one wants to get their hands dirty or look bad. They will never stand up and ask these questions to the people who have made them ask these questions in the first place. What irritates me is the publicity. As to answer your question, the one thing we must secure is security and safety from any harm, bodily or mental. 

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