What You Perceive is Your Projection, So Stop Blaming Others
I recently asked someone to stop tagging and messaging me with the volume of social media posts they share. I set a specific block of time for social media every day, and I couldn't get to everyone else's content due to the logjam in my inbox and notifications. I wished this person good luck on whatever goal they had set for the promotions and thought that would be that.
I received a scathing response. Calling me a bully, accusing me of taking some anger out on them. Bascially telling me what a horrible person I am for being mean to said poor victim. And then the person removed me. Making sure there was no easy way to communicate any sort of response.
Lovely. This time, I'm done with the tantrums. So I decided to write about such projections, with a few tips that might help us all stop the anger triggers to focus on our own healing.
It's Your Reality
Make Use the Gift You've Been Given
You're being shown a negative emotional trigger that you now have the opportunity to heal.Stop taking it out on other people and focus back on your very own self.
- Sink into yourself. Stop the voices that have placed the blame on the other person. ONLY YOU are responsible for your emotions. Nothing outside of you. So stop, sink into yourself and feel what's happening. What emotions are coming to the surface? What is beneath those emotions? How deep can you go and how many emotions can you identify that are in the way of your breakout positive self?
- Identify the emotional trigger. Now that you've recognized the emotions, feel your way to the trigger. What was said (read, implied or whatever) that caused the negative blast within you? How does that relate to something in your past? Dig deep and find the source of that trigger. What belief is telling you to be angry, hurt or whatever other negative emotion you're feeling?
- Pivot to a new belief. 99% of the time you'll find that the belief or trigger is from an event or series of events in your past. Usually it's from a belief that you're not good enough, less than others, etc. Some piece of the crappy programming we all receive at one point in time or another. Instead of letting that programming take control, consciously focus on a positive emotion or belief that counters whatever negative belief is stuck in your mind. Step into what you want to have as truth in your life. Focus on that. Create a scenario where what you want comes into play. Live in that scenario for a while. Consciously apply that scenario to whatever triggering situation you just experienced. Stop blaming someone else and take control of your emotional responses - and change them.