Tuning into The Voice Within
Time after time people tell me they are stressed out. They can’t sleep, they are over eating, drinking more, smoking and doing all kinds of things to cope that are ultimately very unhealthy, and they still can’t make the stress go away. The problems keep running toward them. The pain of looming disaster continues to grip them. I certainly understand those feelings, so let me tell you a few things you need to know so you can find the peace you desire.
We tend to look externally for relief or solutions to our problems, but mostly it is the perception of a problem that is really bothering us. Everyone goes through difficult periods in life, but your ability to shift focus during these difficult times is what will allow you to find both the relief you seek and the answers to your problems.
We are all born with an inner guidance system that remains fully intact and operational throughout our entire lives. No matter how old, young, stupid, naïve or feeble you are, this system remains perfect. You may call this system your intuition, the voice of God, your guardian angel, your inner being, or any number of things. What you call it doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you understand its role in your life and how to maximize the benefit of its presence. It matters to your personal success and your entire sense of well being that you learn how to tune into the voice within.
Lately, I have been bombarding my social media feeds with memes and videos about this subject and the response has been incredibly touching. Time after time, people send me messages telling me how much I am helping them and how much they appreciate my posts. I am grateful and humbled and absolutely delighted to know that I am helping people. Many of these are people I have never even met. This encourages me to keep going. I let my inner being guide me to do what I strive to do and the universe responds by sending me people who let me know that I’m doing it right. I’m on the right path. It feels good to know you are on the right path, and that’s how you know you’re on the right path! When you are aligned with your inner being, you feel good. When you are out of alignment, you feel bad. It’s really that simple.
Silence allows you to hear the voice within and joy is what moves you along the path.
When you feel bad, that is your inner guidance system telling you that you are off the path. Negative emotions are like a bad phone connection. You can’t hear important information. Moving yourself to a more positive state of mind is like changing phones or redialing the number so the conversation is clearer. There is a trick to realigning yourself that goes beyond just sitting in silence, however. In fact, there are several things to focus on and mediation, or sitting in silence, is only one of them. In the following paragraphs I will give you some important information that will help you get through even the most emotionally devastating times.
Meditation: I’m going to make this first on my list because I already mentioned it. So many people think that sitting in silence and focussing on a problem is meditation. Let me tell you, THAT IS NOT MEDITATION. There are different types of meditation but primarily, meditation is the emptying of the mind. It is a way to stop the momentum of whatever negative emotions are driving your reality. In order to do this, find a quiet place where you can sit for fifteen minutes undisturbed. Shut your phone off or put it on do-not-disturb. Tell the kids you are meditating and to leave you alone. Lock your pet out of the room. No distractions allowed. Now set a timer for 15 minutes and 15 seconds. 15 seconds is time to fidget and get comfortable. You can lie down, sit with your feet up or in any way you like. Just be comfortable. Once you have that in place, simply listen to the sound of your breathing or a monotonous sound in the room like the air conditioner or the hum of electricity. Close your eyes, find the sound of silence and breathe. Understand that you are a living, breathing human, so you are going to think of all kinds of things while you are meditating. That’s okay. Just shift your focus back to nothingness.
If you find that system awkward, try some guided meditations. You can get many on YouTube or from a phone app. Some of these are focussed on feeling joyful or on relaxing. Pick one and try it. If you don’t like it, try another until you find one you like. I really like Abraham Hicks meditations. Whichever you choose doesn’t matter. Just choose something that feels good.
Define Stress: Stress is something that is toxic to humans. It is the root cause of many poor lifestyle choices that lead to serious health conditions. It has been found to cause cancer, depression, anxiety and a whole host of illnesses that have a terrible effect on humans, yet there is no physical thing called stress that can be cut out of you. Stress is a by-product of your imagination. It is an emotional reaction to an imagined outcome. When you let the “what-ifs” of life get to you, you have stress. Knowing that, you are now able to change the way you think so you can change the way you feel and ultimately change the direction of your life. You are in full control of your thinking. Nobody is inserting ideas into your brain.
Change the talk in your head: Keep in mind that our emotions drive the results in our lives, and that our emotions are driven by our thinking. This means that changing the talk in your head is a critical component to moving your emotional dial to another station. The problem, of course, is that it is too difficult to stop being miserable and start being joyful in one great leap. You must do it gradually by reframing your thinking one small, better feeling thought at a time. For example, let’s say you lost your job and now you are low on money and you are afraid of losing everything you have. Most people can relate to that kind of stress. Everything in our society depends on our ability to draw money into our lives. When you are out of options, all that’s left is the talk in your head, so you need to change that. You may start with:
“I’ve been through tough times before. I survived.”
“I always manage to get through.”
“Somehow, things always work out for me.”
“I can only control the way I feel right now.”
“I don’t have to have all the answers today.”
“It only takes a nanosecond for someone to make a decision that will change my situation.”
“There are unseen forces moving things around in my favour. All I have to do if feel good about my life.”
“I am choosing to be hopeful about my future.”
“In fact, I am certain I will find a way to change things.”
“Answers come to me when I relax and just focus on the moment I am in.”
“I am okay.”
“I am certain solutions will present themselves to me and I will be back on my feet.”
“I’ve never actually been off my feet, because I am a survivor.”
“This situation could bring about a tremendous opportunity for me.”
“I now have the freedom to make new choices.”
“I am feeling really good about my future.”
When you take the time to reframe and gradually move your thinking to a better place, you then clear away the negative thoughts that block your success.
Avoid talking about your problems: The more you focus on what’s wrong in your life, the more you will see what’s wrong in your life. This only perpetuates the problem. When people ask you how you are, your answer should always be that you are doing well. Smile and know that you really are doing well as long as you can force the feeling of doing well. You may need to trick your mind a little, but thoughts become things and there is scientific evidence that points to that. Check out my blog called The Science of Happiness.
Stay away from those who make you feel bad about your life. I don’t care who it is. Avoid being around people who make you feel bad about your circumstances. They will want you to talk about your misery and they will either wittingly or unwittingly encourage you to be more miserable. They will suck you into their drama and perpetuate the problems in your life. Don’t seek their company out. Be unavailable to them. They are poison to you.
Avoid all negative subjects and experiences: Don’t replace one negative thought for another. Resolve to look at world events and other people’s tragedy with compassion but no real emotional involvement. Wish them well. Wish them peace and love and don’t get drawn into the negativity. Stop talking about the past wrongs that were done to you. They were experiences that took you to where you are and some good came from all of them. Remember that and move on. You are here today and not there ever again because the past is finished. All good things are ahead of you.
Make a list: Make a list of things in your life that make you feel good. What do you love about your life? Think small. Even the smallest things should be on that list. The peaches from your garden, the way your house feels after you clean it, the softness of the blankets on your bed. Little things mean a lot. Take nothing for granted. Everything is a gift. You will hear the voice within very clearly when you are feeling happy and grateful about what you already have.
Do things that make your heart sing: Go to the beach, call a friend who makes you laugh, read a good book, play a game, make love, cuddle your pet, paint a picture, etc. Do whatever it takes to feel good. That is when you hear your inner voice the loudest. Your inner self is always in a happy mood. When you tune into that, you will discover things work out very well for you and that you have plenty of things to feel good about.
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Renée Cormier is a certified coach practitioner and the founder of Belly Busters, a group coaching program that teaches people how to embrace a lifelong commitment to health and wellness. She is also a public relations professional, former adult educator and published author. Her life experiences have been rich and have led her to the work she is doing to bring success and fulfillment to people all over the world.
Nothing works well in life if we are not in harmony with our divine inner self. Self-destructive behaviours, self-sabotaging behaviours, anger, and control issues indicate that there is a disconnect between the outer self and the divine inner self. Once you heal that relationship, you will discover your career, your business, external relationships, your health, and overall wellness will improve dramatically. I have a guaranteed and proven method for helping people change that critical relationship. Please visit www.reneecormier.com for information about Renée and to reach her for support with your goals.