Renoy George in Renoys Advice, Lifestyle, beBee in English The People Consultant - Know What To Say & How To Say It • Renoys Advice Aug 14, 2019 · 1 min read · +600

What do you do if your family doesn't like the person you're in love with?

What do you do if your family doesn't like the person you're in love with?
It's tough when you meet and fall in love with someone, only to have your family reject him/her. The worst part is when they say 'no', it makes you feel like they are criticizing you for your poor judgment, or even worse they could be right! Depending on the situation there are ways of dealing with them so long as the situation isn't PREJUDICE, where they are BIASED against your partner based for his/her religion, race, gender, etc. and there is no way to change their outlook without having to change their core belief! Having said that let's take a look at what do you do if your family doesn't like the person you're in love with;

  • Listen To Your Family: You have made bad decisions in the past. You family knows you too well and is trying to prevent a repeat of what happened before, especially with a relationship as it can significantly affect your future. So listen to your family.
  • Let Your Family Know How Serious You Are: Even though things have happened in your past, you are 100% sure about your partner, and you want to take things forward. In which case, you need to put your foot and let your family know, how serious you are.
  • Make them feel Involved: Sometimes, especially people in a family can feel disrespected, ignored, or unimportant when they are not consulted or involved when it comes to big decisions/events. So they act out, they blame “OTHER REASONS or PEOPLE”. Hence make them feel involved in the future of your relationship.
What do you think, are there any other ways to deal with your family! Comment below, I'd love to hear from you.

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Stephano Gomez 3 d ago · #15

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Renoy George 6 d ago · #14

#10 @Jerry Fletcher That's an entirely different perspective, and a sad and difficult situation to handle! I applaud you for sharing your personal experience. I'm sure a lot of people will find it useful.

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Renoy George 6 d ago · #13

#9 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Well said Sir! Along with the forests, I hope they also see the occasional garden! Sometimes all people need is a positive outlook.

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Renoy George 6 d ago · #12

#6 @David Navarro López Wow! Incredible summation of ideas, based on your personal experiences. I personally think only a family that cares enough will get involved in a person's personal life. And yes, that person has a right to say NO to his/her family. However, I believe that we should be capable of finding a middle ground at least with the people we love! In fact, a 'middle ground' is the vary basis of every successful relationship!

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John Rylance 6 d ago · #11

#9 Like your reference to woods and trees. Though it might be worth taking into consideration, this warning I saw while walking in the Swiss Alps at the start of a ski run through woods.
Remember trees don't move.

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Jerry Fletcher 6 d ago · #10

Renoy, The dislike may come at any time. Early on the entire family liked the young man my daughter eventually married. But he changed. The drugs he was prescribed evened things out for a while but then he stopped taking them. He was a different man. They divorced, with the family's blessing. And so it goes.

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#6 Dear @David Navarro López- thank you for tagging me to this good buzz by @Renoy George. However; you said it all what I have in my mind and more.
One point that I may add is that parents look further into the future and not only on today,. Will their son or daughter be happy with the marriage partner in twenty years? Should the husband or wife get disabled will the partner be reliable and stand with h/h soulmate?
A second point is that the parents see the forest while their loving "kid" sees the tree.
These are two small points to add to these great comments, dears David and Renoy.

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Thank you for your challenging post, Renoy, and for the invitation to comment. It would be a pleasure to have the wisdom of my admired
@Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
Part 1
First things first, your starting point is having a "normal" family around you, which sadly enough, it is more and more "not normal"
Added to it, your family is not your choice, whilst your partner is. Luckily for me, I have a very loving family, from which I am very proud. Nevertheless, I have made mistakes throughout my life concerning the choice of partners, which my whole family had to suffer in more or less manner. But in the end, it is you and your partner, who has to decide if the choice was a smart one. Nobody is allowed to bias your decision, not even your family. It is you who will be there when the light goes off, and you are alone with your partner. After more than 30 years making mistakes on the issue, I can say I have a Master on it.
NEVER my family interfered in my decisions. They were there, though, when things went rough. NEVER had a regret from them.
The fact of checking with the family obeys to a real need.

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