Robert Bacal en Verbal Abuse On and Offline, Communications and journalism, beBee in English Book author • McGraw Hill, Complete Idiot's Guides 5/11/2016 · 1 min de lectura · 1,3K

Eleven Things That Create Resistance And Anger In Others (Free Excerpts)

Eleven Things That Create Resistance And Anger In Others (Free Excerpts)Stop starting conflict by eliminating these eleven conflict habits

Conflict In Your Life

Eleven Things That Create Resistance And Anger In Others (Free Excerpts)

Summary: By eliminating these eleven anger provoking behaviors from your repertoire you can significantly reduce the amount of conflict you are involved in. There's tons more advice, help and insight on conflict, how to prevent unnecessary conflict, and how to manage and resolve it at the Conflict Resource Center

The way you communicate is the primary determinant of whether the person you are interacting with will listen and think about what you say, be indifferent to it, OR, fight like heck against it. We've made a list of the most common, and detrimental ways of communicating that usually completely block the communication process.

Needless to say, if you want to reduce arguments, and have your position heard and considered, whether at home or at work, these approaches should be avoided.

People tend to resist communication, argue, or perceive conflict when the other person:

 1. Provides unsolicited advice

• 2. Appears to be trying to create guilt in another

• 3. Offers reassurances that are hollow or not based on reality

• 4. Communicates using "gloss it over" positive thinking

• 5. Offers sympathy that seems false or lacking in understanding

• 6. Pressures a person to change (opinion, position or as a person)

• 7. Appears to want to blame rather than fix

• 8. Clearly wants to "win" by proving someone wrong

• 9. Comes across as infallible (in their own mind)

• 10. Uses excessive dramatic language and histrionics

• 11. Uses certain kinds of "hot words", words and phrases that have a heavy emotional connotation.



Franci Eugenia Hoffman Nov 7, 2016 · #11

We will always be faced with negativity, it's how we react that matters.

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Irene Hackett Nov 6, 2016 · #10

I've seen and experienced a lot of negative - it is part of being alive. I've also seen and experienced a lot of positive - it's just as real! But in my experience, positive is better and that is where I choose to 'live'. You are so right @Dean Owen - life is too short!

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Javier beBee Nov 6, 2016 · #9

#8 @Dean Owen @Lisa Gallagher Plenty of great people to interact with. My time is only mine and I don't need to interact with negative ones :)

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Dean Owen Nov 6, 2016 · #8

#4 I'm with you Lisa. I just made a decision to not interact. Life is too short. Even when provoked, it is just not worth it. Plenty of great people to interact with.

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Harvey Lloyd Nov 6, 2016 · #7

@Robert Bacal the challenges of communications in such a noisy environment requires many approaches to get heard. A positive agenda for an outcome can be met with a negative writing style. Media today, in all forms, realizes that negative/positive or emotional engagement through taking a stand or showing a sad puppy will introduce a polarized audience on either side. But it is engagement.

Offering engagement within a seeking or wisdom style is too flat and lacks the roller coaster ride typical engagement. I enjoy watching the circus of writers and delineating what their agenda may be within the writing. This is my agenda, as we all have one.

You list seems accurate but is also listing the exactly what engages folks. This is a sad truth but we can see it in politics, social settings and clearly online. It would appear that just experiencing the human dynamic is not enough we must have a agenda/side, engage it emotionally and polarize. This will be our ultimate understanding 100 years from now.

Call it social growing pains. What happens when everyone has a microphone?

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Aurorasa Sima Nov 6, 2016 · #6

Good list, Robert. Thanks for sharing!

I believe 6 and 7 often come in combination with the inability to let go of things. It´s amazing how even someone speaking the truth can become annoying from the unfortunate combination of 6, 7 and what I´d like to call 6a).

Lucky are those who have access to this list.

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Mohammed A. Jawad Nov 6, 2016 · #5

Oh, sometimes confused communication makes others crazy and it spews sheer conflicts. Imagine the harm done when a person feels feverish with thoughts and ideas and publishes it on the media, in haste. Nothing in proper sense, but all like random expressions stitched with silly words. A vile gossip, a pungent back-biting or wandering notions can blotch one's feelings. So, let's think, censor and re-think before we publish anything. Instead silence is better than hasty viewpoints.

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Lisa Gallagher Nov 6, 2016 · #4

I've learned to stay silent for quite some time now. I also learned it's OK to speak out against injustices if we are being attacked or see another being attacked. I will not attack the attacker or become like that of the attacker. I just wrote on @Franci Eugenia Hoffman buzz that I'm learning a lot from those who've done this much longer than myself, beBee and it's team being such a great example. If I feel I may say something I could regret, I won't comment. I'm not here for controversy or to make enemies. There will always be a few who thrive on controversy, not sure why... maybe they are trying to draw more people in. Sort of reminds me of the negative stuff the media spews, people become addicted, it's like a soap opera and they keep coming back for more.

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