How Many Of These Communication Fire Starters Do YOU Use Regularly?
Communication that CREATES Conflict
A lot of the conflict in our lives comes from HOW we communicate with others. Ineffective communication creates conflict even in situations where there is no real "conflict issue" or disagreement about a substantive issue. Poor communication causes hurt feelings, anger, frustration, and tends to erode relationships, sometimes to the point where the relationship is not fixable. Many times we call these situations personality conflicts, when in fact they are a result of poor communication.
Here's the rundown on communication approaches that are guaranteed to create unnecessary conflict, and damage relationships at home and at work. They are based on the book, Conflict Prevention In The Workplace -- Using Cooperative Communication, by Robert Bacal, but apply to communication and conflict in and out of work, and in intimate and family relationships.
More communication and conflict related questions and answers added regularly.
- What are person centered comments?
- What are past centered comments?
- What is guilt induction?
- What is Kitchen Sinking?
- What are blaming comments and communication?
- What is inappropriate reassurance and inappropriate positive thinking?
- What is unsolicited advice?
- What is the command syntax problem (or use of the imperative)?
- What are lengthy attempts to persuade?
- What are defensiveness causing questions?
- What are extended attempts to win?
- What are statements of mistrust?
- What are overstatements and generalizations?
- What are infallibility comments?
- What is histrionic behavior (overdramatization)?
- What are hot phrases or hot words?
- What is use of innuendo?
- What is passive-aggressive behavior?