Royce Shook in Lifestyle, beBee in English, Healthy Living President • The Wilson Centre Seniors Advisory Association 3 d ago · 1 min read · +200

Moving forward, what changes do you see?

I asked a friend who has crossed 70 & is heading towards 80 what sort of changes he is feeling in himself? He sent me the following:

1 After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, I have now started loving myself.

2 I have realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders.

3 I have stopped bargaining with vegetable & fruit vendors. A few pennies more is not going to break me, but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.

4 I leave my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than I am.

5 I stopped telling the elderly that they've already narrated that story many times. The story makes them walk down memory lane & relive their past.

6 I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.

7 I give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say "Thank You.”

8 I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.

9 I walk away from people who don't value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.

10 I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I am not a rat & neither am I in any race.

11 I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions that make me human.

12 I have learned that it's better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas, with relationships, I will never be alone.

13 I have learned to live each day as if it's the last. After all, it might be the last.

14 I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be!

I decided to share this with all my friends. Why do we have to wait to be 60 or 70 or 80, why can't we practice this at any stage and age?

I borrowed this. I don't know who to credit it to, but thank you!

Moving forward, what changes do you see?

Jim Murray 1 d ago · #5

#4 This is a great era for being a hermit. Or anti-social. I qualify as both.

Brian McKenzie 2 d ago · #4

I crossed 35 - I quit giving an F what they, them, those, society thought - when I realized the vast majority of them don't fly above the MSM and none of them give me more than 6 seconds of attention.
And during Corona Time - I have found that I can happily go months without talking to another person.

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Jessica Cross 2 d ago · #3

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Royce Shook 2 d ago · #2

Hi John, being happy is important not only for mental well being but for your physical well being. I am just rounding the halfway point between 70 and 80 and moving toward that target with a lot of energy which I hope continues.

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John Rylance 3 d ago · #1

As someone fast approaching 80, I concur with all fourteen points, and that happiness is the most important part.
Being happy in the present climate is not easy, but well worth the effort. It helps to feel good about oneself, as long as it is not in an egotistical way.

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