Embrace the dark side. It's part of yourself too( and they have cookies)
Our very nature is dual. Everything we can imagine has two sides, two extremes. We have heaven and hell. We have dark and light. The white wolf and the black one. Cold and hot. Each and everyone's life is a kind of a fine patchwork woven of thin, two sided threads. How many times we had actually witnessed an extreme side of anything? Even the coldest air that touched our skin is not an absolute extreme. It is an extreme for us maybe. Or an extreme at the time being.
But experiencing that, we allow ourselves to know that worm (and cozy) are good for us, and cold and too hot are not. So necessary part of our maturing is stepping on both sides. The more we veer, the bigger is our knowledge. Neglecting one part of the whole could easily lead to imbalance. We could ( and should ) strive towards the light, but forgetting about its opposite is bad.
Climbing the mountain, looking only up, could make us think we will never reach the top. Looking only down will make us think, on a halfway, that we have reached our maximum. Our goal is one thing, and our awareness is something different.
Imagine your whole life as a sphere. A sphere made of all the possible outcomes of every single action, intention and influence on the environment you take. That could be measurable values on all three axes.The pure good intention leads to "angel's" peak, and the most imaginable bad intention leads to the emptiness. To complete the sphere to be compact, you'll need every dot in it, those ones in the middle, close to zero, those below positive side and those on the sphere's surface, both up and down. Without any of them, the sphere is incomplete, and therefore unstable, with great possibility to collapse.
That means, If your action caused great influence on the environment, but it was not your intention to do that, it will create an energy level ( dot) somewhere inside the sphere. Or any other combination.
Following this mindset,and making things as simple as can be, let's analyze some common social media quotes:
- Focus only on the positive side. It will take you towards success! - Is that right? How would you know it's a success? If your step-up-from-one-problem you call the success, and this causes bigger problem, then what? Your intention might go high, but action causes bad influence, and this leads to low energy level.
- There are no problems, There are only challenges. - Unfortunately, I heard that some companies embraced this quote as the rule. It's literally forbidden to use the word "problem". The thing is, problems are something that i experience as a result of other people's actions( or my bad decisions). Challenges I pick for myself to develop. To be rude: A pain in the stomach is a problem. Making my stomach flat with six-packs is a challenge. Back to our sphere: problem contains little of our intention, challenges are made of it.
I am sure there are a lot of examples of quotes that can mislead. What I see is a whole world of delusions, making us believe that the only good thing is to forget our nature. The truth is, we have two arms, two legs, one brain with two sides. It's not quite natural to have one sided opinion. We are all made of both black and white energies. Our hearts will always make decisions and give us directions, but to fly, we need both wings. To try to ascend, using only one, will only make heaven laughs. And even that is an act of good deed. Not by our intention thou.Of course I must thank @ Ali Anani for this topic and @ Renée Cormier for this one that inspired me to write this.