THIS IS WHY WE ARE HERE AFTER ALL!
Recently somebody asked me on Twitter if I'm rich (why does it always have to be Twitter by the way?). First of all, of course this is not her business, and it got me confused why she asked such a question, but I replied exactly with these words: "If being rich is to have everything you want and need in life, yes, I'm rich." As a matter of fact, I don't believe in social status thing, because I'm a rebel in heart, I don't accept anything about the system before questioning it, and frankly, social status thingie failed in my eyes. WHAT YOU HAVE, WHERE YOU LIVE, WHAT KIND OF A CAR YOU DRIVE DOESN'T DESCRIBE WHO YOU ARE. YOUR REAL IDENTITY IS WHAT IS LEFT WHEN YOU LEAVE THEM ALL BEHIND!
Say you have a sea accident and find yourself in an island with a small group of people far from your home and everything you own (or you think you own). That is a perfect situation to show (and figure out for yourself) who you really are!
Caption: You want to find out who you really are? Try to imagine that
you're on an island where you're stripped everything you own (or you think you own).
I don't know how to describe this completely, but if I imagine myself in such a situation, and follow it through with an example from the Lost (because I really gave it a hard thought in recent years), I think I can give you a better idea about your own life. You say fantasy? Please, just humor me. Of course the island in the TV show is a fantasy that came from the writer's imagination, but let's leave everything metaphysical aside, and think about it as a down-to-earth disaster. I follow this thought, because one would show his or her real face in a dire situation.
Ask yourself: WHAT WOULD BE THE FIRST THING YOU WOULD DO AFTER YOU OVERCOME THE FIRST SHOCK? Personally, I know what I would do from experience that I had in that big earthquake that hit northwestern part of Turkey in summer 1999. My reaction was completely instinctive: I went to look for people who might need help. I'm not trying to tell you a heroic story here, don't get me wrong. It's just because I know how to survive in general, and I was perfectly fine to do so, my first question was if anybody needed my help.
Would you get upset? Would you get angry for the injustice you had to face? Panic? Or analyze the situation with a strong common sense, or even try to find a deeper meaning in it?
Of course the second thing would be how to sustain the existence of people in the group, but my third question, for my own part (and trust me, I'm not kidding), when everything urgent is taken care of, my third question would be "WHY AM I HERE? WHAT DID GOD SEND ME HERE FOR?"
Caption: WHY AM I HERE? WHAT DID GOD SEND ME HERE FOR, YOU DUMBF...?
Too much fatalism? No, personally, I don't even think it has anything to do with fate! For me, it's all about learning! I believe that everything is a part of a spiritual whole, and then a part of God. If these people are here with me, there should be a reason for them to be (just like why the ones lost have died), and they have something to learn from this experience. Some will survive and get back home in one piece, some will perish, that's for sure. But just ask yourself, are you safer in a big city than you can be in such an island? For instance, in New York, or in Istanbul? I think people in Istanbul got the answer for that question recently, just like all of us. Just like what happened in the US on 9/11. It doesn't matter if it was a terrorist attack; it could be an accident, or a natural disaster, too. What I mean is that we all live and walk on the edge of a knife, because this is life! Nobody knows if he or she will be alive five minutes from now. Do you?
SO, WHAT IS IT THAT YOU NEED TO FEEL SAFE ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR IDENTITY? I can't tell you what to do or think about it, but I know what I think and feel: I trust in God! 100 PERCENT! That's why, I live my life with a feeling of total surrender to Him! Let me make this clear: I had good fights with Him. I rebelled, I got angry, I got disappointed for a lot of things that went wrong in my eyes. But eventually, when I learned to look back, following the events to the beginning, I realized that each time, everytime, it led to something better than I thought in the first place. Because nobody is God, and nobody can see the absolute truth and big picture as He does. I realized He saw the things I couldn't, and saved me from a lot of things that could "really" go wrong! In the end, you know what I said the next time I had a personal conversation with Him? WELL, APPARENTLY, I'VE FAILED YOU FOR MANY TIMES, BUT YOU NEVER HAVE!
Caption: Where are you? What do you want from me? Why am I having all these troubles?
Believe it or not, when the end of my time on this life comes, I'm going to still believe the same! Because I see death as an intrinsical part of life, not as something to be scared of.
So, about defining yourself with outer values? Well, I think one of the things people would like to define their socio-economical status nowadays is the car they drive. If I share a personal experience, I think I can give you a better idea about what I think on this matter.
A few weeks ago, I had a test drive with a luxury car for a few days. I won't say the brand here, because I didn't like it. Let's just say its monetary value is over 30,000 US Dollars. Well, let me put it this way: I'm an advanced driver, and I'd like to enjoy the car I drive. At the end of those few days, I decided the car wasn't worth s..t. If I had bought it, I know people would think "Oh, look how successful he is! Look how much he earns!"
Damn! I'm not buying a car for others! I buy a car for MYSELF! My own JOY! My own USE! And in my opinion, the car was a piece of expensive trash. I know some people would say: "But it's a brand name. It's the symbol of social status. Just imagine how people would treat you if you have it!" OK! I got it! How about my pleasure, you idiot? I didn't work that hard to please others or make them envy. I worked hard for my family and myself! Not them! And frankly, I prefer people to treat me respectfully for my personality and standing, not for a piece of trash I drive! (I decided to buy a 1997-2004 Terminator body Mustang instead, by the way. Is it old? Yes. And strong enough to be old! You know what I mean? And if anybody says it's a gas eater, I'd like to remind that I work from home, so I don't have to commute everyday, and my monthly air pollution and gas consumage won't be higher than an average Joe, relax! I'm nature-sensitive, too.)
This kind of things really get me angry, and sometimes I can lose track while talking about such matters, so sorry if I sidetracked a little bit. But I think you got what I'm trying to convey here.
In short, you want safety, and status? LOOK WITHIN! You want meaning? HELP OTHERS WHO ARE IN NEED! And whatever it is you want, include God into it, so you will learn faster, and understand deeper. THIS IS WHY WE ARE HERE AFTER ALL!