The Melanie Project Part 3
We left off thinking about stress and the stories we tell ourselves. If you missed parts 1 and 2 check them out here:
Melanie had two major stories running in her subconscious mind that influenced her every decision.
She didn’t exactly know that she had these stories running.
They were just there, like music in an elevator, until I pointed them out to her.
And each of these stories were igniting powerful amounts of stress in her body and mind – so much so that her face became paralyzed from the stress.
Every one of us has underlying stories like this. They come from events in our lives that we perceive as hurtful, and from subtle needs that we have, that go unmet. These needs are often so subtle, that we, ourselves, don’t even know we have them.
In this free webinar I’m going to go much more in depth about these needs – and how we can meet them so they don’t develop into underlying stories that stress us out.
For Melanie, one of her stories was that, in order to be a good person, she had to work very hard. The story told her that she had to over achieve, do more than anyone expected, more than anyone else. The harder she worked, the more worthy she felt. Partly this was why she was killing it in her career. She did more, and did it faster than anyone expected. She was killing it in her career, and her career was killing her.
The story wouldn’t let her go, wouldn’t let her rest, wouldn’t let her stop looking for the next dragon to slay. Until, her body couldn’t keep up and paralyzed itself.
Is this a familiar story for you? Can you relate, maybe not in your own life, but someone you know whose sense of worthiness is all tied up in what they achieve?
Share with me. Tell me your story and I’ll finish this one up in my next post.