Sushmita Thakare Jain in Bubbling Honey, Lifestyle, Motivation Founder & CEO • S.H.Traders Oct 14, 2016 · 2 min read · +800

India-Once Golden Sparrow still believes Infertility a Taboo! Why? #InfertilityNotATaboo

Hello Everyone,

A day prior I was introduced to a noble cause, it was a Blogging Contest to raise awareness regarding Infertility.

I at the same moment decided to write about it, not because I was interested in the price money but because it is a noble cause and I would love to be a part of it.

India-Once Golden Sparrow still believes Infertility a Taboo! Why? #InfertilityNotATaboo

To many Infertility is a Taboo subject!

Here no one wants to talk about it, even though it interferes with one of the most fundamental and highly valued human activities which are building a family.

And if we here in India try and discuss or talk about it, we deal with strong opinions towards the hesitation to discuss openly.

If a woman in India could not have children, she is singled out, ridiculed, ostracized and stigmatized They are humiliated with being addressed by words like ‘banhj’ and it is not just about the past we have many who are still facing the issue. India is not only a developing country in other fronts but also in this sector.

It’s not that we are not aware of it, even when watching shows like Friends and Sex and the City we could understand the characters and how it felt but our elders are stone hearted.

Speaking of stone hearted, adoption is not even close to being considered as an option when it comes to dealing with infertility. The reason being cultural complexities and the shallow mindset of the masses. Everyone here want a ‘chirang’ for their kahndan (successor of their last name) who belongs to the family and is not some random unknown child picked up from the street don’t get me wrong I have heard people say such sentences.

I am a woman too, someday want to have kids too but the Indian starts the demand right after your 1st marriage anniversary. I am an independent woman who is currently focusing on my career with a supporting family, but we have relatives enquiring about when to expect good news.

Women here get blamed for the life choices they make and as if that was not enough some are also blamed of infertility caused due to past life bad karma.

It’s because of this attitude of the Indian society infertile couples in India are too ashamed to stand up for their problems and dwell in the darkness of silence.

The silence may cause marriage break ups leaving the women back to suffer the abuse from the society. Such woman as per Indian traditions is not even allowed to attend any happy occasion as they may bring in the bad luck.

When a woman needs the most support from her family, we push her away! Why?

I have come across true events where couples out of shame rob infants from the hospitals so they can live their life with the head held high. But how can a robber be happy after separating a child from their family what about the pain the family goes through?

Life may be difficult but that does not mean we lose the track and take some wrong steps which may raise regret later.

Instead, be strong and stand by each other.

Just like Charlotte in Sex and the City says:

We're not barren, we're reproductively challenged!

Take the Challenge head on and deal with it.

Today we are in a time where running away form the problem is not the solution, rather facing it is.

If you don't know where to began I may suggest you to visit start with the support and knowledge and complete the challenge you face.

Also, it is not just them, it's our responsibility to provide our near and dear ones the required emotional support during the time period!

It's time we take the stand & bring the required change!

This post is written to take part of an Online Contest held on  

Sushmita Thakare Jain Oct 16, 2016 · #6

#4 @Amina Alami was not aware of the situation regarding the issue in Morocco. We must support women, mostly emotionally. Society has always been more tolerant towards men and inferiority is always what we have been facing from a long time. Women must come together to fight back for themselves.

Sushmita Thakare Jain Oct 16, 2016 · #5

#3 @Donna-Luisa Eversley sadly it's the truth in this part of the world and it's high time we need to come together and take a stand, it's time to change what is wrong. Life is about helping and supporting our families and friends it's not about leaving them alone when needed the most.

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Amina Alami Oct 16, 2016 · #4

Thank you for bringing up this sensitive issue Sushmita Thakare. Women infertility is still a taboo in many other developing countries including Morocco. Women who can't have children are considered to be incomplete and a curse to the family. They feel embarrassed and ashamed, and have to bear terrible injustices. But, on the filp side, society seems to be more tolerant of men infertility.In these countries, women are still inherently inferior to men. It's high time that we took a stand!

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Donna-Luisa Eversley Oct 16, 2016 · #3

A worthy and Noble cause @Sushmita Thakare Jain. It is very sad that women can be treated as chattels and inferior because they want and desire an independent mind and an opportunity to think. It is a difficult culture to accept and even try to understand. I stand in solidarity with your cause. You are more than able , to be a mother when the time is right. It is even more sad that adoption is not treated as an excellent alternative . There are so many children who need to be cared for and loved. My heart breaks...I feel your emotion in my own way. #hugs

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Sushmita Thakare Jain Oct 15, 2016 · #2

#1 It's high time we must take stand and support the cause, change is necessary.

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Aurorasa Sima Oct 15, 2016 · #1

I understand that there is a lot about your culture that I don´t understand. Thank you for educating me and even more for raising awareness for that topic.

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