Sushmita Thakare Jain in Lifestyle, beBee in English, English Founder & CEO • S.H.Traders Oct 8, 2016 · 1 min read · 1.3K

To Expect or Not?

We all go through times when they feel pressure to achieve certain goals, behave in a particular manner or even look a certain way. These pressure, or expectations, might have a positive influence and can challenge or motivate you to do your best.

But sometimes your expectations for yourself might not be helpful and could have a negative impact on your thoughts, feelings, and behavior.

Have you ever expected too much from yourself?

Even though you are on the right track, have you ever felt lost?

To Expect or Not?

I would like to admit, I did so the entire week.  It was hard to admit, but it has helped me understand that I have my style and my way of writing.

My love for blogging and writing led to expecting myself to be successful in blogging & writing someday in future , which has eventually escalated my expectations of perfection. I realized it this week, in the entire week I wrote 4 posts but after they were ready my expectations for myself took charge of me. I was not satisfied with any.

I started comparing my work with others and it lead to distract me further.When expectations rule our lives, we set ourselves up for disappointment. Then guess what? We judge ourselves harshly for it. 

This is not the first time I have had expected from me yet this time it caught the hold of me. 
After I completed my engineering degree, by the world’s standards, I was bound to be successful, get a great job, and make money. But I had a dream and expected from myself to take steps towards it's accomplishment. In the past 05 years I moved ahead step by step and fingers crossed each day reaching closer to what I had dreamed of. 

Before I shared my writing, it made me happy, I shared my feelings freely with my self. The day I shared my first blog post, I realized the joy and happiness the feedback to my post brought to me.

So when I realized, I needed to gather myself and refocus what I knew was I needed to share my feelings so instead to having a talk with any of my friend I decided to share my feelings with you all fellow Bee's.

This way just like before when I used to write my feelings same way I am writing what I felt and if I receive any comments from you all fellow Bee's it will lay the foundation of the conversation.

This can help me understand if my goal is achievable. A useful question to ask you all ”What would you suggest in this situation?”

Some say:
'Expressing yourself creatively can help.' Hence giving it a try.

I know there is a long journey ahead, right now standing still to make it worth it!

Join me on my transition from expectation overload to the lightness of exploration.

Maybe the most peaceful and quickest way to achieve something is a way you haven’t thought of yet. Be willing to go with the flow.
Do you think I have it in me?

I know that others cannot define what on can do or accomplish, but when you know you have it and you are not alone on the journey, the journey becomes easy to complete.

Alone we can do so little. Together we can do so much.
Helen Keller

Are you on it with me?

Have you ever felt the same way?
How did you deal with it?

Share your views in the comments section below.
Let's make it Large!

#17 @Laura Mikolaitis so connect with you on it! Sharing my feelings with you all helped me a lot. When I pen down my feelings it makes me fell better sometimes it even feels like meditation where we focus on specifics and it helps us further! You are correct, if I lose my focus and feel tired of what I have developed love for it must be time to regroup my self and re focus.

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Laura Mikolaitis 4 d ago · #17

@Sushmita Thakare Jain, I've been down a similar road and while each person's experience is different I can understand on some level. I have second guessed myself a few times when it comes to my writing and what I publish - and what I don't. I've had many drafts of posts that I just never finished because I kept getting caught in the trap of "it's not good enough", "will it resonate?" and better yet "I'm not good enough." But you know what? We don't know if we don't try and with each post it does get a bit easier. I have found that with each post I pen that I start to become more comfortable in my skin and I am able to refine my voice. I've learned a great deal from engaging with other writers both on this platform and others. So much can be gleaned from the comments - and can often be the spark you may need for your next post. Or better yet, your first. Keep at Sushmita. You can do this. And if you decide it isn't for you, then at least you know you tried.

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Sushmita Thakare Jain Oct 9, 2016 · #16

#15 Thank you! Fingers Crossed

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Aurorasa Sima Oct 9, 2016 · #15

#10 We are all here for you. And I am sure we will be impressed by the quality of your posts

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Sushmita Thakare Jain Oct 9, 2016 · #14

#9 Thank you @Donna-Luisa Eversley for sharing your views. Pleased to know all of your reactions it meas a lot. Let's hope for the beast for all us!

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Sushmita Thakare Jain Oct 9, 2016 · #13

#6 "Buzzing is like a boomerang. If you don't throw something out there, nothing'll come back to you, doesn't matter how perfect the throw.' What a way to bring me back to the race I am a part of.

Thank you Ken Boddie for your important and yet simple push, you have provided me for chasing what I have dreamed or visioned for!

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Sushmita Thakare Jain Oct 9, 2016 · #12

#5 Lisa Gallagher it feels good to have interactions with you all, It is helping me to regroup and explore the world of Writing & Blogging!

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Sushmita Thakare Jain Oct 9, 2016 · #11

#4 Thank you Vincent Andrew for sharing your experience, let's grow together! I will share the posts and also would be looking forward for your future posts!

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