Our Assertive selves….
I was about
to usher in the weekend with a vibrant mood on the seventh day of September of
this year. I like indulging myself into healthy discussions which would help
form various opinions. The topic selected should be such, that it should
interest both of us- me and my other counterpart. Recently we discussed in
great length about the scrapping of Article 370 of our constitution and how it
would benefit our nation.
You all might be wondering about me using the pronoun, ‘we’ in most of the previous sentences. To whom am I trying to address or introduce in this post. I am talking about my old colleague and friend with whom I got reunited in the second inning of mine in the same company. He always liked discussing various topics with me, especially if it’s about politics, finance, economics, arts, etc.
We were seated on the front seat meant for two in our company transport. Several heads would turn when we would get into various intellectual discussions. Sometimes those discussions would turn into debates, and those debates would turn into heated arguments. We had always respected each other's opinions and views, and never tried to cross the boundary which would ruin our friendship.
I always had that innate ability to sense if someone is about to get hurt and if not done anything by me than the damage done would be devastating. All said and done: one couldn’t do anything about a bruised ego. If the entire discussion goes haywire, one needs to step in and calm the situation. The said words shouldn’t be allowed to become fired bullets of insult on their knowledge.
This instance kept me wondering how often we become assertive by imposing our views and opinions on others. Instead of allowing a space to blossom with a healthy outcome, after every discussion, we tend to make a point like hitting a bulls-eye. I am correct, and others are not is not a sane attitude. With high octave and uncontrolled temper, we can never put our point across in an amicable manner.
I kept my temperament in check because I knew that if I would retaliate, then this would become a ferocious fight. Great leaders have always been great listeners. They have always answered every one in a very calm way. This calmness has helped them a great deal to achieve greatness in success.
“Always challenge yourself rather than others in the pursuance of achieving greatness in knowledge and transitioning it into wisdom.”
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