Tausif Mundrawala in Lifestyle, Directors and Executives, Communications and journalism beBee Brand Ambassador • beBee Dec 2, 2019 · 2 min read · 2.7K

Pain: It came and went, but it stayed

Pain: It came and went, but it stayed

Lots of definition exists of this term pain by many medical institutes and organizations. I would help it define in simple words by Medical News Today that pain is an unpleasant sensation and emotional experience linked to tissue damage. Its purpose is to allow the body to react and prevent further tissue damage.

Even here a signal is sent through nerve fibers to the brain for interpretation. When we see a signal and spot a particular light symbol, then we know how to interpret it.

But the scientific studies say that there are different kinds of pain and different ways of interpreting and describing it by the ones who go through it. Dwelling more into scientific studies would make this post a purely scientific one and would go astray to the title I have chosen. I know it’s a broad subject, but I will try my level best to bring forth as many aspects as I can.

It’s an unwelcomed emotion, and no one is ready enough to endure it within themselves. When one is strike with it then they have an experience which differs from all others who have gone through it. No escaping from it.

A lot of wise people would come forth to help and guide us to wade through it, but it’s a pity on them that they don’t understand that turbulence within them. But we can never negate the fact that those words prove themselves nectar on the sense that needs to be consoled by fellow human beings.

Everything seems stable, but we can never be under the illusion that it will last forever, and yes, this worst phase would not last forever as well.

Pain for the loss of loved ones and of waiting for someone without whom we can’t live. The pain of living someone else’s life, which otherwise would have been the one it was destined to be. The pain of seeing someone’s life slipping away like every grain of sand which we can’t hold. The pain of losing everything within a few flips of seconds which would have otherwise made their family prosperous.

Though no one is ready enough to embrace it, the situation makes someone steel witted or break someone into pieces.

The pain would make you feel worse about everything. Many times feelings won’t emerge as we don’t know what we are doing through. Asking others won’t even help because it’s an individual journey. Individuality comes to the fore as one is attacked by unknown sources. It’s only our strengthened self, which helps us wade through it.

Sympathy could act as a balm to some extent: but how about the pained self to the core which no one could imagine is getting rotted with each passing moment.

Many of them resort to rancor as their only chance to fight with pain. Does the feeling of hate and anger the only remedy of this pain? Instead of finding the solution, we go against the nature of our self. Our true self would always hate and don’t think this as a permissible solution to our problem.

Our pain could act as a motivator as it always reminds us of our agony, and if given thought could help us achieve a lot in life.

It came and went, but why did it stay with us? Well, we can fool others that everything is fine and let the bygones be bygones. Little did we know that the pain has stayed and gets resurfaced when we least expect it. After enduring the pain of losing someone, one goes into a shell where no one could find that person.

Time could be the best healer, but what if we encounter the same pain we had been through when it happens to people we know.

Let the ticking seconds be the best healer that it could. Allow it to be the one from which one can expect the best results. Don’t run away if that pain resurfaces again. Face it whenever it emerges in any form. Never allow it to weaken yourself, which has come into this world with a mission. Only our brevity could help us accomplish that mission.

It’s believed and proved that the pain numbs our nerves, and we can feel it initially when charged by it. The more it’s inflicted, the lesser would be its effect and reaction from us.

-Penned by Tausif Mundrawala( 2nd December 2019)

-Image Courtesy- saatchiart.com- painting by Wojtek Babski

Tausif Mundrawala Dec 5, 2019 · #21

#20 I am blessed to have you as my friend as there are very few people who really remember you in prayers.

Thank you so much, my friend, @Fay Vietmeier

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Fay Vietmeier Dec 4, 2019 · #20

@Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
@Tausif Mundrawala

From a post about pain … has came the bee-balm of love & peace
I so appreciate & fully receive … your kind & generous words
Ali your well-appointed adjectives always bring encouragement to this "passionate, sweet well-spring spirit" bee

… i carry you both in my heart
… and remember you both in my prayers

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#15 You are the "passionate sweet well=spring spirit" @Fay Vietmeier. Everyday I discover a new trait of strength and concern for others and I need to find enough adjectives to describe you my dear lady.

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Fay Vietmeier Dec 4, 2019 · #18

@Tausif Mundrawalay
God is the "Master-Weaver" ... He has woven purposefully our paths ... I am blessed by His weaving.
What is your brothers name? Is it just 2 children in your family? Is your Dad still living?
You are on my mind & in my heart ...
I am in His Light, your bee-friend Fay

Tausif Mundrawala Dec 4, 2019 · #17

#15 #16, First of all, what did I do to deserve such a friend like you. Almighty can never allow anyone to remain bereft of true treasure troves. I have just rest for an hour or so as I have to wake up early for all the important things related to my house. I was occupied with peening the latest post of mine named, The blurred line between illusion and reality and simultaneously I answered all the comments on my previous posts. I couldn't forget this wonderful poem of yours you penned especially for us brothers. You were correct we are pillars of strength to each other. Come may what we have to take care of anything now. All the major decisions are taken care of us now. It's a huge responsibility. Sharing our experiences brings our genuine self to the fore.

I can't thank you enough, my friend, @Fay Vietmeier

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Fay Vietmeier Dec 4, 2019 · #16

@Tausif Mundrawala

Tausif~ The following lines from a poem by ee cummings is for you and your brother ... in honor of your Mom

i carry your heart with me
i carry it in my heart
i am never without it
anywhere i go you go, my dear;

and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart
i carry it in my heart

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Fay Vietmeier Dec 4, 2019 · #15

@Tausif Mundrawala
How very precious Tausif is your heartfelt expression to @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee & myself:
"You both are a precious gift to from the Almighty who has bestowed on me in the form of friends, well-wishers, and constant supporters."

This forming of "bee friendships" IS the "honey" of the be/bee platform ... authentic ... engaging and sweet ;~)
Truly meaningful I know for Ali , my dearest Professor ... who is an unceasing "windmill of thought"... but also encouragement
... the best of "Ambassadors" and the best of bees ... is our dear Ali ... and thee

I am deeply touched by your sharing about your Mom
Being present for her ... holding her hands ... was an incalculable gift
And your brother was by your side ... now you must be a tower for each other

I would like to redirect your thinking on what you said:
"Without her, we are the most unprivileged ones."

Because you & your brother were blessed by God with a Mom who "pampered & cuddled"with her sons ... you are of great privilege
Even now God is with you ... as is the wonderful, precious memories you both hold of your childhood
... and you will forever carry your Mom in your hearts

(part 1)

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Tausif Mundrawala Dec 3, 2019 · #14

#10 #11 You both are a precious gift to from the Almighty who has bestowed on me in the form of friends, well-wishers, and constant supporters.

Without you two this platform has been without pure jewels. Thank you so much both of you, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee and @Fay Vietmeier

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