Pain: It came and went, but it stayed
Lots of definition exists of this term pain by many medical institutes and organizations. I would help it define in simple words by Medical News Today that pain is an unpleasant sensation and emotional experience linked to tissue damage. Its purpose is to allow the body to react and prevent further tissue damage.
Even here a signal is sent through nerve fibers to the brain for interpretation. When we see a signal and spot a particular light symbol, then we know how to interpret it.
But the scientific studies say that there are different kinds of pain and different ways of interpreting and describing it by the ones who go through it. Dwelling more into scientific studies would make this post a purely scientific one and would go astray to the title I have chosen. I know it’s a broad subject, but I will try my level best to bring forth as many aspects as I can.
It’s an unwelcomed emotion, and no one is ready enough to endure it within themselves. When one is strike with it then they have an experience which differs from all others who have gone through it. No escaping from it.
A lot of wise people would come forth to help and guide us to wade through it, but it’s a pity on them that they don’t understand that turbulence within them. But we can never negate the fact that those words prove themselves nectar on the sense that needs to be consoled by fellow human beings.
Everything seems stable, but we can never be under the illusion that it will last forever, and yes, this worst phase would not last forever as well.
Pain for the loss of loved ones and of waiting for someone without whom we can’t live. The pain of living someone else’s life, which otherwise would have been the one it was destined to be. The pain of seeing someone’s life slipping away like every grain of sand which we can’t hold. The pain of losing everything within a few flips of seconds which would have otherwise made their family prosperous.
Though no one is ready enough to embrace it, the situation makes someone steel witted or break someone into pieces.
The pain would make you feel worse about everything. Many times feelings won’t emerge as we don’t know what we are doing through. Asking others won’t even help because it’s an individual journey. Individuality comes to the fore as one is attacked by unknown sources. It’s only our strengthened self, which helps us wade through it.
Sympathy could act as a balm to some extent: but how about the pained self to the core which no one could imagine is getting rotted with each passing moment.
Many of them resort to rancor as their only chance to fight with pain. Does the feeling of hate and anger the only remedy of this pain? Instead of finding the solution, we go against the nature of our self. Our true self would always hate and don’t think this as a permissible solution to our problem.
Our pain could act as a motivator as it always reminds us of our agony, and if given thought could help us achieve a lot in life.
It came and went, but why did it stay with us? Well, we can fool others that everything is fine and let the bygones be bygones. Little did we know that the pain has stayed and gets resurfaced when we least expect it. After enduring the pain of losing someone, one goes into a shell where no one could find that person.
Time could be the best healer, but what if we encounter the same pain we had been through when it happens to people we know.
Let the ticking seconds be the best healer that it could. Allow it to be the one from which one can expect the best results. Don’t run away if that pain resurfaces again. Face it whenever it emerges in any form. Never allow it to weaken yourself, which has come into this world with a mission. Only our brevity could help us accomplish that mission.
It’s believed and proved that the pain numbs our nerves, and we can feel it initially when charged by it. The more it’s inflicted, the lesser would be its effect and reaction from us.
-Penned by Tausif Mundrawala( 2nd December 2019)
-Image Courtesy- saatchiart.com- painting by Wojtek Babski