Tony 🐝 Rossi in Directors and Executives, beBee in English, Mindfulness Business Finance Manager • Brookfield Global Integrated Solutions Nov 2, 2016 · 1 min read · 1.6K

On Pride & Getting UnStuck

Why is it so hard to swallow our pride? To be the "bigger man," the "better leader," etc. Especially after we've already made a public or private decision that enough is enough - that we've had our fill…

On Pride & Getting UnStuck

You don't always win, succeed, or end up on top when you gulp and take that step, but usually you do. Not too long ago, I did.  Again.

So why, with mounting evidence over our years of life that this does work, do we still hesitate, push back, and refuse to budge...?

The Pivot

This time, for me, it was more due to the outside involvement of others. Too many pieces of a puzzle - not necessarily even the one in front of me, that mattered. How much more effective and profound would the results, the way forward, have been if I had just jumped onto the reins from the start without trying to arrange all the pieces?

The breakthrough did feel good, though:

"How do we get past all this, get unstuck, and start moving forward?" well, "with love."

That was the best icebreaker. Totally out of place, totally unexpected, barely noticed, but it worked.  It's literally that easy to get unstuck.  You don't have to walk around giving our free hugs to the world (although, there's a case to be made for this as well) - but the absolute reality is that anything but love is only going to make the trek in front of you that much more difficult, deleterious, futile.

The ROI of Humility

The is nothing wrong with pride without pretense, humility without subservience, good vibes without sharing.  These thoughts and attitudes can be a solo experience without being selfish.  As a matter of fact, if you can engender these energies, it will serve others.  Your vibrations will rub off on others, attract those on the same plane of existence, and empower you to be a better version of yourself.

By all means, act positively towards others, but given the opportunity to make a personal effort towards getting unstuck and leaving pretense behind, you will pave the way for better things to come.

Praveen Raj Gullepalli Nov 3, 2016 · #10

Surely rings a bell Tony! :) There is a fine line between Pride and Vanity, Humility and Servitude, Positivism and Arrogance, Wisdom and Proselytism. Love, Respect or Service orientation are perhaps the only ways to gauge this distinction.

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CityVP Manjit Nov 3, 2016 · #9

Where this is an authentic reality, we can find some truth in the Biblical passage "For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted". From New International Version.

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Tony 🐝 Rossi Nov 2, 2016 · #8

#7 Never been much of a desert man myself... lol!

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Kevin Pashuk Nov 2, 2016 · #7

I learned a long time ago... "Crow pie is best eaten warm"... Timely topic Tony.

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Tony 🐝 Rossi Nov 2, 2016 · #6

#1 I'm completely aligned with you @Harvey Lloyd - thanks for sharing your thoughts. I like the point about Service to the world being the external manifestation of actions based in love.

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Tony 🐝 Rossi Nov 2, 2016 · #5

#3 Thank YOU Asesh! Far more eloquent than I tried to put it! :-)

debasish majumder Nov 2, 2016 · #4

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Asesh Datta Nov 2, 2016 · #3

Pride and prejudice. These are all obstacles in steeplechase race often comes together. The significance of love brings smile and tears of joy. Do the act of love only from the context of 'giving' without anything expecting in return expect observing the truth happening around. Humility to accept those around caused by your own act requires a special skill, Detached Observation. Thanks for the beautiful article and opportunity for sharing my views. Regards

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