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A Simple Conversation

A Simple Conversation

The world is full of things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper

A read a wonderful article this morning on Transformative Thinking in business, and for that matter life in general, written by Edward Lewellen in Chief Executive Officier - CEO, Directors and Executives, Sales , seen here:


https://www.bebee.com/producer/@edward-lewellen/leadership-clarity


" If you’re not happy, then how you see yourself (psychological) isn’t congruent with who you are being. If you’re incongruent and not happy, then how can you have a positive impact on those you lead?"
Edward Lewellen

I wholeheartedly agree Mr. Lewellen...In order to 'be' in a state of happiness we need to be very clear about what makes us 'feel' happiness...By raising the state of our own awareness...By paying very close attention to our exchanges with others and developing real listening skills as it has an abundance of treasures waiting to be discovered if we just learn to tune in and stay focused on what each and every conversation has to offer.

A good friend of mine had a modestly successful small business in my hometown for 30 plus years. She was often referred to as the 'Encyclopedia of Natural Medicine' and created a consciousness of good health among the locals. But eventually things began to sour after she joined forces with a rather unsavory business partner and expanded her small vitamin shop to include a vegan/smoothie bar...which should have done well being the only establishment of that kind here in a small town full of health fanatics...But it very soon failed after opening.


" She admitted that she hadn't been happy for several years prior to the recent downturn in business, so she thought bringing in a partner and expanding would change all of that."


I worked with her for a short time while I was transitioning from a civil service career to creating my own business in therapeutic massage. I thought it would be a great opportunity for me to learn about vitamins and supplements from the Master herself, without having to pay eleven hundred dollars to take a course through the school I was attending.

I soon realized the business was failing and asked what the problem was. She admitted that she hadn't been happy for several years prior to the recent downturn in business, so she thought bringing in a partner and expanding would change all of that...except it didn't...My first response was..."Sure it did!"


In the middle of a difficulty lies opportunity. ALBERT EINSTEIN / TWEETJUKEBOX.COM

I asked her what she really loved to do that brought her joy and she said she loved to "make things". She also revealed that she really enjoyed the energy of working with kids and would be so happy to bring the long lost skill of sewing and needlepoint back to the hearts and minds of young children. 

And there you have it...That's why her business failed...She wasn't happy anymore with what she was doing and life was giving her an opportunity to change all that. As luck would have it, not long after the business folded a client of mine, who is the director of a summer camp for a private school, asked me if I knew of anyone that could teach a sewing class for her summer program...Coincidence? Hardly...I do not believe in coincidences.

After spending a few years working feverishly to re-establish herself, my friend now has a booming business of her own teaching sewing classes for anyone with a desire to learn. Better yet, both of us just happen to be renting office space in the same building...Another coincidence you say?? Not! We were meant to be working together...in our own little corner of the world. All borne of a simple conversation;-)


About the Author:

I am a licensed and Certified Massage and Bodywork Professional, Writer and Energetic Channel in the Greater Boston, Massachusetts Area

Massage therapy and energetic bodywork for the mind, body and spirit

For more information and helpful articles please visit my website @

http://cyndiwilkins12.wixsite.com/thehealingelement


  
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Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #17

#22
Cognitive dissonance in action Deb\ud83d\udc1d Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee... as I return home from an evening out to dinner with my family and experience a situation at the restaurant that created an enormous uprising of emotion I found difficult to control...A silly thing when I reflect on it now, but in the moment I have to admit that I was absolutely furious. As we entered the establishment we were greeted by a male member of the wait staff for a table...the place was packed and there was an obvious wait time... We were soon informed a table was clearing and would be ready for us in a moment...we stepped aside and the group of patrons behind us approached to put their name in as another woman approached and said oh we just had a table clear so I can seat you immediately. One of the women in this group had the audacity to turn toward me and smile as I was trying to wave at the staffer to inform her that we were waiting for that table. As these people proceeded to the table, several of the younger ones looked over at me apparently feeling the blazing flames I was projecting from my eyes...Now did I say what I was thinking? No...but every person in the room felt it. When our male staffer came out and saw what was happening he stayed as far away from me as possible without actually leaving the building. Now I realize the woman staffer was not aware of our party having arrived first, but the woman in the seated party most certainly was...and selfishly chose to ignore it. Why am I so annoyed by it? Because this woman knew it was wrong and chose to do it anyway with a smug smile. And quite frankly, it ruined my appetite and my evening out to celebrate with my daughter for her fabulous report card. A beautiful night tainted by selfishness.

Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #16

"Many are feeling incongruent or what i call cognitive dissonance... Where it seems that all three components are always out of alignment." Right on Harvey Lloyd...When we are out of alignment with the 'self' and unclear about our intentions, what we see unfold before us is not necessarily in alignment with what we feel. Emotion is a very powerful motivator when utilized properly...and the only way to ensure that we act according to our current set of circumstances is to view the obstacles that occur in our lives as opportunities to recognize our true selves and what each challenge has to teach us... When people say to me, "Oh the past is the past...I can't change what happened." Well that may be true...but what you can change is how you look at it...Because as sure as the sun rises and sets, so to do your emotions...So when they rise, give them your respectful attention and address whatever it is that presents itself...and if it is not in alignment with your current set of circumstances, I would suggest you give your 'self' the space to do a little digging...And I mean conscious participation...It does not matter how you do it..(unless that means medicating yourself)...it just matters that you do it. Because ignoring problems does not make them go away...They just sink back down to the bottom again and wait for the next storm surge to churn them back up from the bottom of the well. And they are not very happy about being buried alive;-)

Harvey Lloyd

6 years ago #15

Thanks for the tag. I would agree and believe that happiness is something that we find in the immediacy while peace and joy is something that is only mildly wavered during our life. If we can find it. For me i have found that three ingredients exist to peace and joy. A belief system that is never changing and that you can plant yourself in all situations firmly. An identity born of this belief system. Whereby you have sorted all of your own boxes and gained a renewed view of yourself. And finally, a view of others that recognizes they too are looking for peace and joy regardless of how they demonstrate their search. I can bring happiness to others through one time events, comfort or money, to name a few. But Joy is something i know can only come from within, a belief that only faith can carry with a focus on our role with others. In these times this view is very challenging as it seems stoic and hard edged. Society feels we need to be flexible throughout the three. But i would submit that many are feeling incongruent or what i call cognitive dissonance. Where it seems that all three components are always out of alignment. You are spot on with your post and quotes.

Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #14

#16
Thank you Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador...I thought you might enjoy this one;-)

Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #13

#15
I understand exactly where you are coming from Devesh \ud83d\udc1d Bhatt...I had a very lucrative and secure job with the government for over fifteen years...but when the culture changed drastically in the last five years of my employment, I found myself in a very hostile environment that eventually began to 'bleed through' my emotional body and manifest itself as physical illness...I became quite sick and nearly allowed myself to be consumed by it. I knew I had to remove myself from that environment or I would be lost to battling chronic illness for the rest of my life...It took five years from the time I made the decision to leave...I attended night school while continuing to work full time...Very long days they were...but my energy came from the desire to regain my health and personal power...I was miserable and sick for a reason...My spirit was being suffocated by my environment and forcing me to make a change. I did it on my own terms...put my time in to develop my new skills...began to build my practice before actually leaving my job...Then I cut the cord...I gave my notice and finished out my time in what I refer to now as 'Federal prison'...and I moved on to a successful practice of my own...I work very hard...but I do it for me;-) You can too...You sound like a very bright and polite guy and deserve much better than what you are experiencing now...Make small changes first...like not downing yourself just to be accepted by those who would love nothing more than to see you go under.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

6 years ago #12

Inspiring story Cyndi. If we just tune in and stay focussed we can take difficult paths and inspire ourselves!

Devesh 🐝 Bhatt

6 years ago #11

#13
well that is how Corporates are working. Said bye bye to them 4 years back. The common thread in my limited experience. There is a lack of genuineness in bosses and employees. Somehow an honest attempt to have a positive impact or an honest attempt to share the burden of negativity hardly comes of. Everything is a shallow protocol. Maybe we havent reached the threshold where it becomes necessary to ship out the rot. You will find highly positive, polite, smiling and inspiring people from Asia ( India,China, South East) around you. But they would agree to the fact about the honesty bit. Truth be told you hit the nail, most of us lack self esteem here.

Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #10

#12
"I have seen colleagues mock those trying real hard to leave a positive impact." You know Devesh \ud83d\udc1d Bhatt...People who mock others for their efforts to better themselves have very little self-esteem and feed on making others miserable...You know how misery loves company my friend... In order to make a positive impact on others you first have to create that within yourself...and if you are working in an environment of denigration the simple answer is...You need to change that...and that in and of itself is not so simple. It takes a great deal of effort to switch gears and reinvent yourself...but in doing so you regain your personal power instead of bleeding it into the feeding frenzy of the 'shark tank.' Don't pretend to be more messed up in an effort to gain the approval of the very people you don't give a hoot about you...Speak your truth and see where it takes you...What have you got to lose by leaving it all behind? I can tell you what you lose by staying....Yourself my friend;-)

Devesh 🐝 Bhatt

6 years ago #9

Good results make everyone happy. In other cases. I can be happy with the effort and unhappy with the results i.e. feelig both. I have felt both for the most part of my life in a collaborative setting. When i honestly say the same people who feel the pinch of failure do not believe me. They only believe it when i pretend to be more messed up than they are, the guilt of having failed their efforts is what they want to see. Maybe i am in the wrong crowd but that is how it is. I have seen colleagues mock those trying real hard to leave a positive impact. Ive seen bosses who pressure employees for a feedback and lose all positivity when i tell them to stay professional or else ..try to be honest about how they feel. I simply do not know how to have a positive impact. When it is needed i mock myself alongwith everyone else. We seem to enjoy the frustration of work more than the joy of achievement.

Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #8

#8
Exactly Claire L Cardwell;-) But it is up to us to 'put it out there' and be VERY CLEAR about what it is that makes us tick;-) The Universe does tend to be quite literal!

Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #7

#7
That's the whole idea Pascal Derrien...Things need not be as complicated as we like to make them...It is self-defeating...The simplest answer is quite often the best one;-)

Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #6

#6
Thanks for that Kevin Baker...and you're absolutely right! I say this to my friends all the time when they are moaning about being single and unable to find the perfect mate...I just smile and say..."Stop looking and expecting perfection."

Pascal Derrien

6 years ago #5

a simple but great story :-)

Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #4

#3
I'm counting on it Kevin Baker...I'm growing a bit weary of the constant smoke signals...but I know all good things come to those who patiently wait... I'll just sit here smoking my peace pipe in the meantime;-)

Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #3

#2
And so did her heart and health;-) Thank you for sharing Ali...I appreciate your input as always.

Ali Anani

6 years ago #2

A grear leader realizes that people excel where their hearts fall in love. Your story Cyndi wilkins is a great story of a lady who witnessed her heart going down because she did not what she was doing. When finally she followed her heart and started what her heart wanted her new business thrived. Thank you Cyndi for writing. A great buzz.

Cyndi wilkins

6 years ago #1

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee;-)

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